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the only thing i want to hear from this guy is the audio recording of him getting brutally violated in prison.

i know it’s wrong to wish rape on anyone, and i am a survivor myself but fuck it. i want this guy to suffer, and the sound of that suffering is all i want to hear from him.

windchill
5/21/16 9:44pm

“but” = rape is OK as long as you pick a REALLY deserving victim. That’s exactly what you’re saying. Congrats.
KaraThrace,LikeEverybody,LovesHypnoToad
5/22/16 2:50am

and might i add: if there is any classification of human being that could be said to “deserve” to be raped, it would be serial rapists. poetic justice and all that. i mean, he violated dozens of women. let him know what it feels like to be on the receiving end of that kind of dehumanisation. call it aversion therapy, if you will; violate someone else and you get violated yourself until you lose your taste for violation.
SarsAttacks
5/23/16 4:31am

violate someone else and you get violated yourself until you lose your taste for violation.
But that’s not the way it works. Feeling shame or experiencing powerlessness makes many people strike out in anger harder and more often and always at someone weaker. You don’t want him to have an excuse to do it again to someone else, or to end up killing them afterward because now he knows he can be caught.
Rape is too often used correctively, to control a person, defile, or humiliate them; remember that Is it a Lad Mag or a Rapist thing from a few years ago, where we had to judge whether a rapist or a bro had said or written something vile and hateful? One that stays in my head, from a rapist, is about the difference between nice girls and bitches*, bitches deserving and in need of rape. This is no different. Nobody deserves rape. Never. You know this. One survivor to another, you know this.
*unavailable women with self esteem and standards, usually
KaraThrace,LikeEverybody,LovesHypnoToad
5/23/16 5:20am

i don’t care if you agree with me that he deserves it or not. i just want to think about him suffering. why do you care what i wish on this guy? i can’t make it happen, so why does it matter? i’m not hurting—i want him to hurt because i find that comforting. don’t presume to tell me what i’m feeling, please.
OopsImPregnant
5/23/16 9:58am

My god, you really need some professional help.

http://jezebel.com/lol-as-opposed...

KaraThrace,LikeEverybody,LovesHypnoToad

5/21/16 8:17pm

the only thing i want to hear from this guy is the audio recording of him getting brutally violated in prison.

i know it’s wrong to wish rape on anyone, and i am a survivor myself but fuck it. i want this guy to suffer, and the sound of that suffering is all i want to hear from him.

armyvet12
5/22/16 9:07am

Use the power of the dismiss option!
KaraThrace,LikeEverybody,LovesHypnoToad
5/23/16 4:49pm

meh, i find the trolls who respond with vitriol towards me interesting—makes me wonder who they have hurt in their own lives to be so afraid of women expressing righteous anger about sexual assault on the internet. afraid of something from their own past catching up with them, maybe? perhaps they think if they can contribute to silencing women about their experiences online the girl they hurt in their own past will be too afraid or ashamed to speak up when it’s her turn. i will never be too afraid or ashamed to speak up, so they can say what they like. it doesn’t phase me.
OopsImPregnant
5/24/16 9:10am

“It doesn’t phase me.” Your many, many responses say otherwise. Your Tumblr must be so fun to read.
KaraThrace,LikeEverybody,LovesHypnoToad
5/24/16 4:31pm

i don’t use social media like tumblr or twitter or facebook.
OopsImPregnant
5/25/16 9:25am

You should! They’re really quite fun!
KaraThrace,LikeEverybody,LovesHypnoToad
5/25/16 2:58pm

i don’t find them fun, i find them empty and promoting of narcissism and consumerism and they are designed to keep people online for hours comparing their lives to others rather than just going out and actually living their lives. they call it “social media”, but it all strikes me as rather anti-social. if i want to talk or share things, i do so directly with my friends. i can see why they would strike someone like you as fun, though.
OopsImPregnant
5/26/16 9:38am

LOL. As opposed to you being on Jezebel for hours spewing your hate? Something tells me you don’t have many real-life friends. If you’re have as annoying as you are here, they probably dropped you a long time ago.

http://jezebel.com/you-re-single-...

sybann

5/24/16 12:17pm

Men who can’t handle challenging women seem to be the rule, not the exception. Just as challenging women who haven’t had that aspect ground off by life (or self-suppressed) are the exception - especially if they value relationships. Almost all relationships require compromise. Not poking. ;)

YesYesThisAgain
5/24/16 2:33pm

I am male and I agree with the other commenters that either “challenging” is much too generous to describe this woman, or at best she is “challenging” in a really bad way. Perhaps an unacceptable way.

Why is she challenging? Because she has difficulty accepting the fact that her boyfriend has a lot of exes, who they run into all the time? Apparently, the BF and the exes left on such good terms, that they are able to carry on light hearted banter when they bump into each other. I really doubt that the author will have that rapport when she gets dumped.

It seems like she treated men badly, especially as an adolescent. She says she had endless suitors, and rejected them for the pettiest reasons. Is this an example of being “challenging”? Even if you think it is, well, it seems as if many of those guys wanted to attempt “handling” her, but she rejected them. 3^rd grade Steven with the milk moustache seemed like a badass. The milk moustache is gross, but it’s cool of him to rattle off a quip rather than immediately lick it off. Lol.

This line really resonated with me, “I learned about them as I began to date them, so I never had any sense of them as people—just as romantic interests.” Sure, yeah, that happens. And Jezebel authors and commenters frequently criticize men who act in the same way, “see women as targets, not human beings.” However, interacting with the opposite sex can be really challenging. Most people are not experts in getting people to like us. However, I think that this is significantly easier for women than for men. Women can be socially awkward and standoffish, and will have more opportunities to work on it than men. Socially awkward men get rejected really fast, while men are much more patient with socially awkward women. If this author were male, I think that she would have had a pretty bleak love life.

She admits that her family life had fucked her up. And this is probably accurate. Her father’s abandonment and her “insufferable” (her word) female family had a bad effect on her. It is could have made her crave inappropriate and abusive relationships with men, and it is good that it didn’t.
KaraThrace,LikeEverybody,LovesHypnoToad
5/24/16 4:50pm

as a woman who is pushing 40 and is socially awkward due to autism, men and women both are NOT more understanding with socially awkward women. socially awkward men are more acceptable because it’s expected that women are supposed to be more socially fluent and aware of and tending to everyone’s emotional needs and feelings around them. if you are too socially awkward to do that well as a woman, then you are “cold and uncompromising” and bad at woman-ing.
YesYesThisAgain
5/24/16 7:30pm

Think about your male equivalent. Do you think that he is good at “man-ing”? Somehow I really doubt it.

I think that society does expect women to be: nicer, more pleasant, more smiley, show more empathy and sympathy for people. But, in terms of being charming, suave, funny, and interesting, men are under much higher expectations.

This woman just kind of stood around and waited for “suitors.” Most women do this. Most women are able to do this. Most men are not able to do this. So, yeah, society is more forgiving of women who are standoffish, boring, and socially awkward.

Jezebel constantly complains that men don’t like intelligent, funny, opinionated women. Well, if that is true, then, women are forgiven for being standoffish, boring, and socially awkward. If men are expected to be the active initiators, there is more opportunity for men to fall on our faces.

I really have to question if women are expected to be “emotionally fluent” when it is obvious that “English fluency” is so much less important for women than for men. Face it, an immigrant who is not fluent in English can date in the US more successfully than her brother. She might be “emotionally fluent” but she is probably not able to express this due to her lack of English fluency, thus making her unable to convey her emotional fluency, thus essentially negating it.

Society wants men to be active and women to be passive. To this end, society is forgiving of boorish men and boring women. Society makes it easier for men to be impressive. Society also makes it easier for women to be unimpressive.
KaraThrace,LikeEverybody,LovesHypnoToad
5/24/16 7:38pm

nope, women are expected to be the social glue in groups, especially family groups—we are expected to arrange everything and accomodate other people’s feelings at all times. and i don’t have to “think about” my male counterparts—i talk to autistic men online all the time, and most of them can see how being socially awkward would present unique difficulties for women because social facility is more expected from women in our culture. and don’t get me started on the still very common misconception that autism is a disorder that mostly/exclusively effects men, and so is less acceptable and underdiagnosed in women (especially adult women, who are usually misdiagnosed as mentally ill rather than autistic because of sexist misinformation.)
you really don’t know what you’re talking about.
YesYesThisAgain
5/24/16 7:51pm

Yeah, I listed some examples of areas where more is expected of women socially, and here are some more: Women are more expected to plan birthday parties, etc, and sometimes in social situations, women will ask me questions or such to bring me and others more involved into the group. I consider this to be an example of chivalry, i.e., the women are in positions of greater power, and are offering a hand to the people in lower situations of power (me, and other people).
Are your autistic male friends successfully “man-ning”? I really doubt it. I know some autistic men, and they are largely single and lonely. To have more successful social lives would be a low bar indeed.
Society is more accepting of women who don’t have much to say. The author of this piece admitted to rejecting boys who were “too dumb.” What happens to girls who are “too dumb”? Do they get rejected? Not really. Women can be boring and stupid and have better social lives than their boring stupid brothers.
KaraThrace,LikeEverybody,LovesHypnoToad
5/24/16 11:21pm

i am single (though the lonely part is arguable; i am independent and enjoy time to myself)—but i guess i don’t count because it’s supposedly easier for me to get in a relationship because i am female.
you are one of those idiots who thinks they know more about something than someone who lives with it every day and has studied it for years. you sure do love to make lots of words on the screen, though. good for you!
OopsImPregnant
5/26/16 9:41am

You’re single? Mind-blown.

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